I’ve only been in school for about two weeks, and I feel like I hear about one topic of conversation more than anything else:
Rush.
I know we’re in a Southern school, and that “going Greek” is one of the most popular activities on campus. Personally, I fully plan on going Greek and I think it’s great If people do and it’s super if people don’t as well. However, is it becoming too hyped up? I constantly hear of the things girls should not do in order to get into the best sorority possible. It’s as though the freshman girls are scared silly into editing themselves to fit into a mold. Then on the other hand, the freshmen boys are being taken out on the daily, invited to events and bonding with the older frat boys. So, what gives?
I’ve met some great sorority girls that I would love to be “sisters” with, and I feel like the approach I’m having is a pretty good one. I don’t feel like I should change who I am in order to get into a “good” sorority. I’m confident by the end of the day, I’ll be in the right one for me. I think that should go for everyone else as well: Breathe, you’ll be exactly where you’re supposed to be at the end of the day by being yourself.
I agree that some girls feel as though they need to walk on eggshells when it comes to sorority girls, but you don't HAVE to "change" to get into a good sorority, I think if one feels they have to change, then they are probably modifying themselves in order to be presentable to the girls and worthy of representing a sorority. But I have a similar approach to you: just being myself, maybe just asking more questions than I usually do and being prepared to answer any questions thrown my way as well.
ReplyDeleteYou mentioned the difference between the sorority recruitment process and the fraternity recruitment process, and I think it is funny to see how different they are. The boys are being spoiled and encouraged to engage in debauchery while the girls are trying to put on their best show-which is silly because at the same time it is very obvious who is being fake and not themselves. It is not worth it too put on a show and try to impress someone because everyone will get into the sorority they should be in-if they act like themselves.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with you that the sorority and fraternity recruitment process is crazy and maybe people shouldn't be thinking about it this early in the game. But then again, you have to start planning for what's coming up because life comes at you fast. Also, I think that if a sorority or fraternity wants you to change who you are to join them, it's completely ridiculous. They should want you for who you are and if they don't want you because of something, then that is their problem and their loss. So I think you have a pretty good idea of who you are, but just don't change yourself to get into a certain sorority. The right one will be the one who wants you for you.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree. If you try to change who you are to get into a certain sorority, its probably not a sorority you want to be in. I hear you that at the end of the day you'll be in the sorority that is right for you by simply being yourself. I have friends who were disappointed at first that they didn't get into the sorority of their dreams, but after time goes by they couldn't imagine being in any other sorority but the one they are in now.
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